Recently, my dear husband and I have felt like we need to back up and start some things over. What prompted this? Well, when you realize you are still falling into destructive patterns, say when you fight, it is not a good thing. Not when you are on the brink of your 15th anniversary. You know? So we had to go backward a bit, dig up some of the yucky and ask ourselves how can we do this different?
Well, one way is to get away more often. The past, say two years, we have had about 6 dates I think. Especially if you do not count the company Christmas Party, or similar things. Because, honestly, who talks about deep stuff at the “crazy” company Christmas party? Not me. (it is hard to get my husband to talk about deep stuff anytime, but especially not in front of people who know him!!)
So we took some time to talk about our marriage and where we are looking for changes. We talked about what we each do well, and where we are needing some improvements. It was good.
Next up, date night. So fun to get away and catch a movie, but the best part was the plan to work on our family mission statement over some dinner. I was impressed that when I told Robert he was in charge of planning the conversation, that this is what he wanted to do. Floored is more like it.
So I printed off a few things that I found on the internet to help guide us, and I did not really look at it prior to printing, I mean, we were walking out the door….
Mistake #1. When you sit down to do this, you need to make sure the guide you are using is Biblically based, otherwise you will see words like happy, fulfilled, and fun throughout. Not sure those are God’s call to us as believers. Honestly, I think we could build a mission statement with a piece of paper, a pen and the Bible. Really, that is the only guide we need. But it is helpful to see some steps outlined as we go through this. The most important part of this statement, though, is that it reflects the overall vision of God, his word. It must be able to lay next to the Bible and support what it tells us we need to do, and how we need to live.
So, this morning I went back to my search and found the Simple Mom’s version of a guide HERE. LOVE it!! I am printing this so that my husband and I can look it over and we can start again. There are other great bloggers out these who have shared their journey through this, but for now, we are going to follow Tsh as she went through her journey and the steps she took. I know we will end up in a good place for our marriage and our family!!
So, do you have a Family Mission Statement? I am so sad to say we have never written one down. We have talked about it many, many times – but I guess we felt like we were good. Now that our kids are flying through childhood, approaching adolescence, it is not a desire any longer – it is a REQUIREMENT!! Life is far to hectic and crazy to not have the main purpose defined, clearly.
So we are off, to plan, to share and to create.